O believers, seek help with patience and prayer; for God is with the patient. ~ Qur’an 2:153
dear mai’a,
patience is not one of my virtues. i am quick to complain, quick to vent, quick to want answers. some of this is, i suspect (though others may tell me i’m wrong) a north american/modern cultural trait. we are so used to having things at our finger tips (google it, map it, turn on the weather channel, etc.) that when we have to wait for anything it seems impossible to do. but some is just my natural personality. i am not patient. i am not patient with myself, with my own limitations. i am not patient with Allah’s Will and instead always seeking something (undefined, often) that i think would be better than my current state (literally and figuratively, LOL).
Ramadan, i think, is meant to teach us something about patience. the long stretch of day without food and drink prepares us. we aren’t supposed to spend the whole day whining about how hard it is or fantasizing about what we will eat for iftar. it’s also supposed to be a lesson we carry over into our lives all year long. patience with difficulty. it’s a lesson i have thus far failed to learn and want to try very hard this Ramadan to “get”.
By my greatest teachers I have learned things that I still refuse to accept. ~ Cat Listening (this was a status on FB from our friend Adele. i don’t know who or what “Cat Listening” is, but definitely related to the quote.)
sometimes the lesson is hard to accept even when we know it is necessary. this applies across so many things.
i was questionning my commitment to tariqa, my ability to be a mureed, my ability to be a Muslim worth anything. and a lot of it had to do with lack of patience waiting to see the fruits of it, and a lot of it had to do with inability to accept certain lessons and patience to do the work necessary to understand the lessons and how they applied to me. i haven’t finished working thru all of that. i mean, there are still some lessons that i don’t understand and cannot apply on face value when they appear to be things i cannot accept. but i’m working towards the understanding part.
and maybe it’s the journey, and making that journey with patience, that is the real thing that i need to learn.